Cathartic Counselling 

Liverpool based warm and friendly counselling service 

Mission Statement

"Cathartic Counselling’s mission is to help you explore what you need support with, identify what needs to change, express your emotions, reconnect to your authentic self and empower you to move forward"

Cathartic Counselling Values 


Having the courage to reach out and seek support for your mental and emotional wellbeing is courageous. There is still lots of stigma around counselling and my mission is to breakdown that stigma. If we had a broken arm, we would naturally seek medical help, but yet, we still struggle when it comes to matters of our mental and emotional wellbeing. 

There is no shame and embarrassment asking for help and support, its essential for helping us move forward. 


Empathy is different to sympathy as sympathy is more aligned with a sense of feeling sorry for someone. In counselling, feeling sorry for someone does not work for either the client or the counsellor. Whereas, empathy is a sense of truly understanding how that person may feel, walking along side those feelings with that person and not trying to fix or tell them they do not need to feel that way, but to be there and witness those feelings and emotions. 


A return to your authentic self, now let’s say that again….

“A return to your authentic self” 

We are like onions – the core is our authentic self and since birth, all our conditioning from our caregivers,  other people's rights and wrongs, all the societal norms and expectations. All our experiences, how it impacted us and how we responded, all our needs, wants and desires - some being met, others being suppressed, has created a layer after layer after layer of the onion rings. 

Now its time to start peeling back those layers and having a look at who you really are, what you really want and need and reconnecting to your most authentic self. 


What a fabulous word which feels it has a lot of power and meaning to it. 

The Cambridge definition is, “the process of gaining freedom and power to do what you want or to control what happens to you”. 

When we go through our lives from a baby, we were completely dependent on our caregivers for survival. Through our developmental stages, teenagers, adolescence and adulthood, combined with not being heard, not understood, not valued and or having your needs met can and does have a massive impact on you. It can often leave you with feelings of low self-esteem, low confidence and a feeling of disempowerment. 

Now is the time to take back control and work on feeling, healing, learning, inner growth and development and exploring all the ways you can take back control, you can feel and be empowered and you can show up for yourself and be an active part in your own life. 


Trusting yourself because you know what you need. You know that something needs to change, you feel it, but sometimes we get a little stuck on the how we need to change. Putting your trust into another person can make your feel extremely vulnerable, all your deep, thoughts and feelings being said out loud. All those experiences that are soaked with lots of emotions, often painful, that we have learnt to suppress, bury, avoid or scared to let surface. 

TRUST yourself. You have come this far. You have got yourself through all you have been through up to now. Trust in you. 

Counselling is a trusting experience and it can take time to build the therapeutic relationship. Counselling is a process and a journey, one that is truly worth it and can be life changing.

Be your own best friend 

I love this moto because it is true. We are so quick to be negative on ourselves and that critical self-talk is absolutely disgusting. We would never talk to our best friends like that and yet we speak to ourselves like this all the time. 

Try this exercise of being curious about your reaction. Write down the questions and ask yourself these questions, capture your first thought and write that down as well. 

Was your responses interesting? 

Did you feel any emotions surfacing when reading and answering those questions? 

If you close your eyes, how do you feel about your responses, can you label any emotion? 

Next - examine your responses with curiosity questions. Some examples:

Critical self talk serves a purpose of protection, but it is a very outdated tool we have used and is counterproductive. Let's start a different self talk - How can I be my own best friend?

What is counselling?

The NHS defines counselling as a "talking therapy that involves a trained therapist listening to you and helping you find ways to deal with emotional issues".


Counselling or 'therapy' which it is also known as, falls under the umbrella term ‘talking therapies’ and allows people to discuss their problems and any difficult feelings they encounter in a safe, confidential environment. Counselling and therapy can mean different things to different people, but in general, it is a process people seek when they want to change something in their lives, or simply explore their thoughts and feelings in more depth.


However, I feel counselling is so much more than that. It is a therapeutic space where both you and I create together without even thinking about it. Two human beings coming together with a shared goal; you have made a decision and dedicated time to prioritise and focus on your mental and emotional wellbeing and I have a set of skills that can support you along the way. 


Within this time, you are truly heard, understood and valued. What you are specifically going through, no-one else will ever completely understand how you are feeling because it is solely your experience. However, through my training as a counsellor, I learnt the art of firstly; understanding myself and then secondly; providing you with that undivided attention that allows you to speak your truth and understand yourself.


There is something special about being heard and getting things off your chest, speaking them out aloud and actually hearing yourself say it without being judged or criticized can feel very freeing. When we feel heard and have our experiences and emotions validated, something happens within us, we start to process them, make sense of them, the good, the bad and the ugly. By going through this process and understanding yourself from within, being curious about how you feel and think and applying compassion towards yourself, can and really does help you move forward.


Counselling is a journey and opening up about your struggles can feel draining and make you feel initially vulnerable and or sensitive, as you may talk about things you have never told anyone else. This may bring up feelings and emotions that you have buried, avoided and may not even be aware of. However, on the other hand embracing the counselling process, exploring and not being controlled by your thoughts, feelings and experiences, will help you feel lighter, calmer and more in control.


Stripping back those layers, allowing yourself to engage in counselling, explain what your going through and how it is affecting you. Explore how you feel about it and how this has or currently is impacting your life. Then to evaluate what this all means for you, what you want to do next; what needs to change and how you do that.


The most important relationship you will have; is the one you have with yourself. Counselling is and can be life changing.

“I'm not perfect... But I'm enough”

~ Carl Rogers ~